“Above all, love each other deeply…. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms.” – 1 Peter 4:8-10
Have you ever had your heart set on something and faced giving it up for the sake of someone else? It’s not easy, that’s for sure. Even if you choose to show love to another person by sacrificing what you desire, you can still struggle with self-pity and grumble in your heart. You might feel pulled in different directions—joy in giving and sadness in giving up—a feeling hard to shake.
Hard to Give It Up
I dealt with this feeling recently. Our son was leaving home for graduate school and his bedroom would soon be empty. What would we do with it? Without giving it much thought, I just named it and claimed it—it was going to be MY writing space. My refuge—my quiet place to read, study, and write.
But I forgot God often has other plans. And so He did with this room.
Our sweet daughter asked if she could move back home until her wedding in May. And, of course, we said yes. Just as we have enjoyed our son being home for a year after college, we will enjoy our daughter being with us these last months before she marries and settles in a home with her new husband.
And while excited to spend more time with her, my heart struggled to let go of MY writing space. Lord, this was supposed to be my quiet place, I whined. But God didn’t let me get away with grumbling and self-pity.
He showed me His plan. He gently whispered, “This isn’t meant to be YOUR room. This is meant to be a blessing room. Right now and always.”
A Blessing Room!
I never saw it that way before. And no wonder! My heart was so filled with a room for myself I couldn’t see a room for blessing anyone else.
When our hearts see only from the desire of our eyes, we cannot see God’s perspective and are blind to His blessings.
Asking the Lord’s forgiveness, I started to see this room with His eyes, and the excitement inside me grew. As I recognized the beauty of its purpose, all those negative feelings melted away and turned to pure joy.
A blessing room is a place of love, generosity, and hospitality. A place to bless all who enter.
This room will be a blessing…
…for our daughter to live in until she marries.
…for us to spend more time with her now.
…as a guest room for visitors later on.
…as a quiet place for study and writing when empty.
Who knows all the ways God will use it in the future.
But here is the key. It is God’s room. It is to be used for His purposes. And He desires to bless everyone through it.
It’s the same with our hearts. They belong to God and He has created us to bless others with all the blessings He has given us.
When you make room in your heart for others, your heart itself becomes a blessing room. Always open, always giving, always full of love and grace.
And that’s the heart of God, isn’t it?
How to Let Go and Fully Give
So when we’re faced with those unwanted feelings that wreak of self, let’s take them captive and confess them before the Lord. He will whisper just what we need to hear to see our situation from His perspective and guide us to a new understanding. And as we surrender, our hearts will be filled with joy and peace and open to pour out God’s abundant blessings.
Do you have a blessing room?
Dearest Father, how we need to see Your perspective on every part of our lives. Reveal to us where our hearts are closed to loving others. Help us to open our hearts to You fully so we may shower Your love and grace on all those around us and be the blessing You created us to be. In Jesus’ name, Amen.Blessings to you, Sabra