How to Be the Best Mom Ever

Prov. 31:28 – Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.

Excellent wives make excellent mothers.

Indeed, the excellent wife described in Proverbs 31:10-31 is a mother.

Not a perfect mother. An excellent mother.

This is an important distinction.

I’ve certainly not been a perfect mother. And if you’re a mother, I know you haven’t either, for no one is perfect. But take heart!

God’s word doesn’t say “A perfect wife who can find?” No. It says “excellent wife.”



This word translated excellent also means able, strong, efficient. We need these qualities as wives and mothers if we are to serve our families well. But we cannot depend on our own strength and abilities. We’re not made to do it on our own.

We are made to depend on God. All the qualities seen in this amazing woman flow from her relationship with the Lord. She knows Him and fears Him. She follows the wisdom found in His Word. And everything she does comes from a heart of love.

Three Steps to Become the Best Mom Ever:

  • Fear the Lord
Prov. 31:30 – “…a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”

A mother who has knowledge of the One True God has understanding and wisdom. (Proverbs 9:10).

An excellent mother trusts the Lord, acknowledges His sovereignty, rests in His presence, seeks His righteousness, and depends on His power.  Her relationship with the Holy God is her top priority.

  • Follow God’s Wisdom

Look at this correlation between the excellent wife and wisdom:

Proverbs 31:10 – “…she is worth far more than rubies.” (the excellent wife)
Proverbs 3:15 – “She is more precious than rubies.”(wisdom)

Isn’t that fascinating? The same value is placed on wisdom and the excellent woman in Proverbs 31.

These attributes are given to wisdom in Proverbs 3: having riches and honor, pleasant, peaceful, life-giving, blessed/happy, competent, discreet, confident, loyal, faithful, praised, strong, prosperous, good, generous, caring, friendly, gracious, trusting, disciplined.

An excellent mother seeks to know God’s wisdom and strives to live by it. It is seen in everything she does. All of these qualities can be found in her life and her home is blessed by them.

  • Do Everything Out of Love

You won’t find the word love listed in Proverbs 31:10-31. But it flows through the entire passage. Love for the Lord, her family, and her household is behind all that this mother does. Every activity listed here is to benefit them and bring honor to them.

An excellent mother lives by 1 Corinthians 16:14: Do everything in love.”

Love is what spurs her on when life gets tough. Love helps her to respond in godly ways to difficult circumstances. It helps her to give of herself when she wants to give up. It moves her to shower blessings on her family and those around her. Love is her strength. Love is her power.

And that love comes from her Lord.

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The goal of a woman who wants to be an excellent mother can be summed up in Deuteronomy 10:12-13:

“…what does the LORD your God ask of you but to fear the LORD your God, to walk in all His ways, to love Him, to serve the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul, and to observe the LORD’s commands and decrees that I am giving you today for your own good.”

This side of heaven we’ll never be perfect mothers. But if we strive for holiness, hopefully—with God’s help—we’ll make it to excellent. And we just might hear our kids say, “You’re the best mom ever!”

Precious Father, help me to be an excellent mother. Let me never forget the great privilege and responsibility You have given me. May I always fear You and follow Your ways. May I live according to Your wisdom. Please fill my heart with Your love that I may pour out that love in everything I do. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
This post has been linked up with my friend Meredith Bernard
on Woman-to-Woman Wednesday at 
more posts on Proverbs 31,just click on the link below.
Scripture from New International Version of the Bible, 1984.
Mother child in park by artinfarct via flickr (CC BY 2.0)
Graphic by Sabra Penley


Filed under Godly Living, Lessons, Love, Marriage, Motherhood, Wife, Woman-to-Woman

6 responses to “How to Be the Best Mom Ever

  1. What a wonderful thought, Sabra. We aren’t striving to be perfect, but excellent in the sight of the Lord. This is like an epiphany for me and it’s right there as plain as day. When did I replace excellent with perfect? Thank you for these words. You always lay them out so beautifully and in a way that gives me something to work towards. And those words on love are just what I needed to hear this morning. Everything I do and say has to stem out of my love for the Lord and then my family. Bless you, sweet sister! And Happiest of Mother’s Day wishes to you! xoxo, Meredith


    • It’s amazing how often I have to be reminded to LOVE! I’m so thankful for God’s great mercy and that each day is a new start, a chance to love better than I did the day before. You’re a sweet friend, Meredith. Happy Mother’s Day to you, too!


  2. Sabra, I love this post. You lay out before us the truth of how to be the best mom and wife. And it’s encouraging to be reminded that being excellent is not being perfect. Thank you. As I begin my day today, I’m asking God to help me do everything out of love this day, and I’m praying your prayer. May God’s presence envelop you today!


  3. Kathryn Shirey

    Sabra, I needed to find this post today. Motherhood is really tough and it’s so easy to get down on all the challenges – and this week has been full of those challenges. Thanks for your words of encouragement – we’ll never be perfect moms, but we can center ourselves in God’s love and strive to be good moms.


    • I’m so thankful that God doesn’t leave us to do it on our own. Praying that God will give you the wisdom and strength for every challenge, Kathryn. Blessings to you.


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