Prov. 31:28 – Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.
Excellent wives make excellent mothers.
Indeed, the excellent wife described in Proverbs 31:10-31 is a mother.
Not a perfect mother. An excellent mother.
This is an important distinction.
I’ve certainly not been a perfect mother. And if you’re a mother, I know you haven’t either, for no one is perfect. But take heart!
God’s word doesn’t say “A perfect wife who can find?” No. It says “excellent wife.”
This word translated excellent also means able, strong, efficient. We need these qualities as wives and mothers if we are to serve our families well. But we cannot depend on our own strength and abilities. We’re not made to do it on our own.
We are made to depend on God. All the qualities seen in this amazing woman flow from her relationship with the Lord. She knows Him and fears Him. She follows the wisdom found in His Word. And everything she does comes from a heart of love.
Three Steps to Become the Best Mom Ever:
- Fear the Lord
A mother who has knowledge of the One True God has understanding and wisdom. (Proverbs 9:10).
An excellent mother trusts the Lord, acknowledges His sovereignty, rests in His presence, seeks His righteousness, and depends on His power. Her relationship with the Holy God is her top priority.
- Follow God’s Wisdom
Look at this correlation between the excellent wife and wisdom:Proverbs 31:10 – “…she is worth far more than rubies.” (the excellent wife) Proverbs 3:15 – “She is more precious than rubies.”(wisdom)
Isn’t that fascinating? The same value is placed on wisdom and the excellent woman in Proverbs 31.
These attributes are given to wisdom in Proverbs 3: having riches and honor, pleasant, peaceful, life-giving, blessed/happy, competent, discreet, confident, loyal, faithful, praised, strong, prosperous, good, generous, caring, friendly, gracious, trusting, disciplined.
An excellent mother seeks to know God’s wisdom and strives to live by it. It is seen in everything she does. All of these qualities can be found in her life and her home is blessed by them.
- Do Everything Out of Love
You won’t find the word love listed in Proverbs 31:10-31. But it flows through the entire passage. Love for the Lord, her family, and her household is behind all that this mother does. Every activity listed here is to benefit them and bring honor to them.
An excellent mother lives by 1 Corinthians 16:14: “Do everything in love.”
Love is what spurs her on when life gets tough. Love helps her to respond in godly ways to difficult circumstances. It helps her to give of herself when she wants to give up. It moves her to shower blessings on her family and those around her. Love is her strength. Love is her power.
And that love comes from her Lord.
The goal of a woman who wants to be an excellent mother can be summed up in Deuteronomy 10:12-13:
“…what does the LORD your God ask of you but to fear the LORD your God, to walk in all His ways, to love Him, to serve the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul, and to observe the LORD’s commands and decrees that I am giving you today for your own good.”
This side of heaven we’ll never be perfect mothers. But if we strive for holiness, hopefully—with God’s help—we’ll make it to excellent. And we just might hear our kids say, “You’re the best mom ever!”Precious Father, help me to be an excellent mother. Let me never forget the great privilege and responsibility You have given me. May I always fear You and follow Your ways. May I live according to Your wisdom. Please fill my heart with Your love that I may pour out that love in everything I do. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
This post has been linked up with my friend Meredith Bernard on Woman-to-Woman Wednesday at www.4hisgloryblog.com.For more posts on Proverbs 31,just click on the link below.
Scripture from New International Version of the Bible, 1984. Images: Mother child in park by artinfarct via flickr (CC BY 2.0) Graphic by Sabra Penley